Dale and I were married twenty-five years ago today. It’s our silver anniversary and it truly feels like a milestone. And, while I can distinctly remember thinking that we’d be old if we made it to the 25 year mark, now that it’s here I have to say that I don’t feel one bit . . . older . . . than I did on our wedding day. I feel wiser. I feel more confident. I feel respected and seen and heard and loved. But not older.
I don’t recall anyone ever asking me what the secret to our marriage is, although I know there are people who observe us with awe and envy, who remark on the joy we find in each other, who say that they want what we have. My only advice for anyone joining their life with another, is to find a partner who makes you laugh. Find that person who can turn a tense or difficult moment around, who can do something silly to lighten the mood, and (probably most important of all) can make you laugh at yourself.
Why is this my advice? Because things are going to go wrong. The car is going to break down. The kids are going to get sick in the middle of the night. The job you thought was secure is going to come to an abrupt end. Family and friends are going to die, often unexpectedly. Someone might even . . . ahem . . . get hit by a car. And when all of those things happen you need someone by your side who can help you get through it, who can make you see the humor, who can help you find your joy again.
Dale does all of that for me and so much more. He is my rock and my helper, the person who listens to all of my stories (even the ones he has heard over and over again), my sous chef, garden assistant and bartender, and he loves me with every fiber of his being.
There’s a song from The Sound of Music called Something Good and I’ve thought about it so often since I fell in love with Dale and he fell right back in love with me. The lines go:
for here you are, standing there loving me,
Whether or not you should
So somewhere in my youth of childhood
I must have done something good
I don’t know what I did to deserve the love I have from this man but I sure am glad I did it.
Happy 25th Anniversary to my huckleberry friend, the kindest and most loving man I know, my Dale.
Ruth Norton says
Beautifully expressed. Happy Anniversary to you and Dale, and wishes for continued joy and contentment!
Happy Anniversary! You two are just too darn cute together. Have fun celebrating.
Happy Anniversary to you and Dale! I agree that you need to be with someone who is there for you and who can make you laugh ??
Aw, you’ve got me tearing up! Happy anniversary, and here’s to many more happy years together!
Mary K. in Rockport says
What a beautiful tribute. God bless your love!
Barbara Seiver says
Happy anniversary to the happy couple – so glad you found each other!
Happy Anniversary. Congratulations and good wishes to you. May you have many more years together.
Happiest anniversary wishes to you and Dale, Carole. Twenty-five years . . . an auspicious anniversary! May it be the gateway to an even deeper love and appreciation for each other. XOXOXO
Happy Anniversary to you and Dale! I love your wedding pictures because you look so happy; 25 years later you still are incredibly happy. Keep up the good work!
What lovely sentiments, Carole, and I feel the same way about my husband. It’s a wonderful thing to find someone you want to share the good and bad times. Congratulations on your anniversary and all you both have done to make your relationship work so well!
That was beautiful Carole. Happy Anniversary!
Jo-Ann Coles says
Happiest of Anniversaries to both of you, two of my closest friends. I love that you love each other so completely and so well. Cheers to at least 25 more years of wedded bliss and wonder.
Happy anniversary! Wishing you both the best life has to offer in the years to come.
Happy Anniversary Carole and Dale! Here’s to many more years of love and laughter. ??
Congrats you two loving birds!! Hope there is another 25 in your future!
Many congratulations on your milestone anniversary! The two of you are an inspiration.
Happiest of Anniversaries, Carole & Dale … and best wishes for many more years full of love and laughter!
Happy Anniversary and here’s to many many many more!
Ann Hutton says
Happy and joyous anniversary! May your next 25 be just a fun.
Happy anniversary! You are absolutely right about the laughing part. It makes a huge difference. We’re about to hit 40 years, and still laughing every day.