Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day! Hooray! I know that for some people this is not a day to celebrate and I understand. However, I grew up with a mom who celebrated every holiday and Valentine’s Day was one of her favorites. She decorated the house with red paper hearts. She bought and sent lots of cards. She sang “Won’t You Be My Valentine” and she asked everyone she loved to be her Valentine – not just my dad. We even got presents for Valentine’s Day. And I don’t mean candy I mean presents – usually pajamas and a book or two for my brothers and I, my dad always got a new tie, and we all got our own heart shaped box of chocolates, too. My mom always cooked a special dinner for all of us and we celebrated L-O-V-E as a family. Sure, she and my dad did their own thing, too, but there was always a family component to the day. It was something we all looked forward to as a way to break up the mid-winter blahs.
My particular take on the holiday has been slightly different and over the years I have wondered if I have lived up to my mom’s legacy when it comes to Valentine’s Day. I do ask everyone I love to be my Valentine and I do decorate the house for the holiday. I don’t buy presents, but I do always get Hannah a box of chocolates. And I have always emphasized that this is a day about the people you love, whether it’s love for a friend, a child, a brother or sister, a husband or a partner, it’s just about L-O-V-E. But you know, as most parents do, I wondered if my philosophy about this day was being understood.
I don’t have to wonder anymore because the other night Hannah told me she was discussing Valentine’s Day with a friend of hers. This particular friend has a boyfriend right now and she was remarking on how much better Valentine’s Day is with a partner and how depressing it is without one. You know what my baby girl said? She said, “Valentine’s Day is about all kinds of love and the one and only Valentine that truly matters to me is my mom. She has always made Valentine’s Day awesome for me because it’s a day about the people you love.”
How about that. She gets it.
And so, because it’s about the people you love, I will be making cream puffs tomorrow. And I will be cooking a special dinner for Dale and I. And I will be giving my girlie her annual box of chocolates and asking her to be my Valentine. I think my mom would be proud.