Happy 40th Birthday, Brant!

brant fishing 2012 for carole knits

Yesterday my stepson Brant turned 40. I have to pause for a moment and reread that so that it sinks in a bit. 40? How can the kid that was Hannah’s age when I met him now be a 40 year old man? A husband and father and provider?

And yet, he is 40 and that means that for the next two months, until my birthday, he and I are only 8 years apart in age. That’s something we all just accept now but in the beginning it was a little weird as we adjusted to our new little family. And thinking about it yesterday reminded me of a funny story from 18 years ago.

Picture this:

Dale and I, along with Brant, Jessica, Luke and Hannah are hanging out on Dale’s back porch. We are chatting and having a snack and, since it was the early stages of our relationship, just generally getting to know each other. Dale says something to me, I can’t remember what it was exactly but it was a little bossy, and I turn to him and say, “hey, don’t talk to me like I’m one of the kids.” And then, without missing a beat, Brant says, “well . . . just about.” There was the briefest of pauses and then we all just started cracking up. And we still crack up every time we repeat the story.

So even though I’m a day late, Happy Birthday, Brant! And here’s to many, many more!

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  1. says

    Kids grow up so quickly and become responsible adults before we have time to imagine they will. Happy B-day to Brant. Glad you celebrated him!

  2. Marcy says

    My stepdaughter and I are 9 years apart also. It was difficult in the beginning but, like your situation, has changed over the years. One more thing we have in common in our lives from different coasts!

  3. says

    Happy Birthday Brant! I can relate to your situation – my stepmom is 10 years older than me, and most of her siblings are around my age so it’s kinda funny. But it works and everyone gets along well.

  4. Jo says

    Great story! You have a very witty stepson. It’s funny how the passage of time smooths out sge differences!